It is unrealistic to believe that true love exists, but expect it to surpass everything. Having such an understanding of love can make us not superstitious about love and make us less vulnerable to injury and despair. Take a look at the small fragments of modern love here and read the popular love concepts there. Can you find that although the love concepts in the new century are diverse, they tend to be pragmatic, rational and hedonistic in general. At the same time, they pay more attention to maintaining individuality and pursuing equality between men and women in love relations.
In keeping with such a popular trend, what kind of love quality is enough to make us comfortable in modern love? Let’s try to list a few.
1. I believe in love, but I don’t believe in love.
It is unrealistic to believe that true love exists, but expect it to surpass everything. Love may change with the change of time. Its disappearance does not necessarily mean betrayal, but is most likely a natural decline. Having such an understanding of love can make us not superstitious about love and make us less vulnerable to injury and despair.
2. You can enter and exit.
When you invest, you can forget yourself. When the result appears, you should let reason stand out, whether it is the beginning of marriage or the end of love. Only in this way can you grasp the initiative of love and not lose yourself in feelings. The so-called “when it’s time to take the shot, when it’s time to let go”.
3. Active and open attitude
If you wait for love, you will miss a lot of opportunities. The modern rule is to seize the opportunity and take the initiative to pursue. Those who despise the pursuer can despise him. It is foolish to close ourselves, but futile to close love. As long as we build up self-confidence, openness will only make us have love, not ruin it.
4. Have the ability to love
The ability to pay, the ability to understand, the ability to tolerate and the ability to bear oneself. Don’t expect your lover to share everything for us. We still have to face many things alone; Giving is more beneficial to love than taking, and it also makes me happier; Tolerance has unexpected effects on love. When demands, accusations and entreaties fail to achieve their goals, tolerance may work.
5. A little bit psychology flexibility
Enjoy the intimacy of love, accept the alienation of your lover, and master both looseness and tightness. Cherish what you have, turn around when you lose it, don’t mourn the past endlessly, and believe that new love is ahead.
6. Learn a little about love psychology
The state that seems to be available but not available is the easiest for feelings to warm up, and this can be used to strengthen the atmosphere of love; Creating a little obstacle will make the lover’s fighting spirit high; When a lover encounters setbacks, he needs comfort most; New patterns are always needed by love. All of these, if used properly, will form a benign situation of mutual motivation.
7. Have a little economic foundation
Although material and love are not necessarily proportional, a little material foundation is absolutely beneficial to the healthy growth of love. Love that does not eat fireworks between people is difficult to last. “In the final analysis, love is beyond success or failure. Love is the most beautiful dream in life. Can you say that you have a successful dream or a failed dream?” This is the words of the philosopher Mr. Zhou Guoping. No matter what our love is, it is smart to use this sentence to encourage and comfort ourselves.
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