psychological imbalance
A woman’s talk: I’m suffering from love now. I don’t think about food and tea. It’s hard to sleep deeply every day. My mind is in a very restless and anxious state. I’m afraid that I’m falling in love with someone who doesn’t understand and cherish feelings; I am afraid that he will refuse me and walk into other people’s lives, so I will feel pain and despair. When he left me on business or for other reasons, I felt nervous and worried that he would never come to me again. I think a hundred times a day: will he like others and leave me deliberately? Can I live happily if I am so nervous?
returned platform
Carson McCullers once said, “love is a common experience between two people.”
If you let paranoia occupy you, the balance between emotion and reason will become a blind spot, and you will not be able to enjoy truly happy love, because in the view of skeptical women, a man must first mature his mind before he can accept a relationship, and it is very difficult to judge whether a man is mature. According to this way of thinking, it will become unreliable for him to send you flowers and meet your friends and even family. Because in order to win your heart, he will do everything he can, even at the cost of creating some illusion, so he is worried whether his mind will accept you as his lover.
Feelings always need two people to constantly work hard, day after day, year after year… Real lovers run in together in this way. Suspicious people regard all the actions of the other party out of true feelings as untrue, and the longer they stay together, the more harm they will cause to each other. The suspicious should use reason to dispel wild speculation and leave trust.
Due to their different roles in society and more social affairs, some men have to temporarily leave their romantic partners for a period of time, or temporarily cover up their relationship. This phenomenon exists in many men, making them seem to be single-minded about their feelings. Women seldom go out to solve affairs and socialize, so they have no personal experience. When men don’t meet with themselves for a few days, they feel aggrieved and even ignore each other. Because some women are not good at handling problems, they often unconsciously block men’s love and reduce their attractiveness.
There is a young migrant girl who works as a cashier in a supermarket. Her boyfriend is a cook in a restaurant. They have been in love for almost a year. At the end of the year, when my boyfriend went back to his hometown, he brought his girlfriend back with him to meet his parents. By the way, he settled the marriage and gave her a gold ring. But after she came back, her boyfriend didn’t come to see her for several days in a row. She thought that her boyfriend had played with other girls and became suspicious. She suspected that her boyfriend had moved to another love.
On the evening of the third day, her boyfriend came, but she had a big argument with him. After scolding him, she was still sad. At dawn the next day, the more she thought about it, the more sad she was. She swallowed the gold ring her boyfriend gave her and planned to die. After swallowing the ring, she began to regret and fear, and shook two roommates to tell the truth. The two girls immediately called her boyfriend and sent the young girl to the hospital together
When a man leaves himself temporarily, even if he leaves himself wronged, women must not rush to chase him back, because men want women to accept his temporary escape. A man is like a rubber band. When he is pulled hard, there is a limit. When the limit is reached, he will naturally bounce back.
Women often think that the closer the relationship, the better, so when a man leaves temporarily, women will try their best to understand what went wrong. A smart woman will give a man appropriate space and trust, and even encourage him to spend more time with friends. Sooner or later, a man will return to her side because of the woman’s understanding.
soul prescription
Inferiority complex, cowardice and dependence are the common psychological characteristics of women, and are the main psychological obstacles when women are in love. In this regard, women should learn to “accept themselves”, affirm themselves, not belittle themselves, and not speculate and doubt indiscriminately.
Many women’s lifelong ambition is to find the other half that can fit with them, so they idealize love, as if they are only half a circle. If they can’t complete a circle, they will have a regret in their hearts. Then you are often harmed physically and mentally by this idea, because your reason has been blinded by desire at this time. Why can’t you think that you are a complete circle?
You build your self-confidence on his affirmation of you, and you put your hope on the other side, so once you don’t have him, your world may lose. Therefore, while believing in each other, we also believe that we are a complete circle and a complete individual.
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