When the American woman Betsy shervey’s weight increased to 100kg, she had more and more disputes with her husband and even considered divorce.
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Betsy is 31 years old and fat from a young age. It happened that she met ROM shervey in her thinnest college years. When the two married in 2000, Betsy grew 11 kilograms, which increased to 100 kilograms five years later. And Roma’s weight has been in the normal range.
To Betsy’s dismay, the increasing weight difference has affected the relationship between husband and wife. The two often argue, are disappointed with each other, and even consider divorce.
Recalling those unhappy days, romm told the reporter of the “today” channel of the national radio network Microsoft of the United States that sometimes a few unintentional words made Betsy angry. For example, he said that he felt that Betsy’s clothes were inappropriate on several occasions and said to her, “honey, this style is not suitable for your body shape”.
“When I said this kind of thing, I didn’t think about it at all, and I regretted it,” ROM said.
Betsy often worried about whether Roma hated his body shape and whether going out together would make Roma feel embarrassed. She once considered leaving and starting over in a place where no one knew her.
after losing weight, the husband helps his wife lose 34kg
Later, Betsy made up her mind to lose weight and successfully lost 34 kilograms in 10 months. Based on this experience, she wrote “ending obesity”, which was published earlier this month.
Recalling those days when she was busy losing weight, Betsy said that at that time, her focus of life was diet and weight. “I call it ‘fat goggles’. It’s like wearing glasses and only seeing fat,” she said. “Everything comes down to my weight. No matter what I eat or do, I have to think about whether it will make me gain weight and help me lose weight.”
Betsy’s success in losing weight can not be separated from Roma’s supervision and encouragement. During this period, their relationship became increasingly harmonious.
ROM said that it is not easy to encourage his wife to eat healthily and help her lose weight. “If I said, ‘skip dessert’ or ‘we shouldn’t have dessert’, she would think about her weight and image and feel bad.” Later, Roma was diagnosed with diabetes and had to control his diet to solve this problem.
sleep of couples with a weight difference of more than 20kg is affected.
In 2011, New Zealand had a national sleep survey, involving 11000 people, most of whom were women aged 25 to 54. 60% of the respondents slept with their partners. The weight difference between partners may cause some sleep problems.
According to the survey, more than 40% of New Zealand couples have a weight difference of 20kg or more. Unless they use a suitable bed, one of them will turn around and the other will be awakened.
there is a saying that partners are easy to argue because of large differences in weight.
The Albanese area of Utah is not the only couple whose weight difference affects their partnership. “Today” channel conducted an online survey of more than 1500 netizens. The results showed that 55% of the respondents said that the weight difference made their relationship with their partners tense.
A report published in the Journal of social and interpersonal relations in December last year said that partners with large weight differences, especially those with overweight women and normal men, were more likely to argue, anger and resentment than couples with the same weight range, which affected communication and damaged their relationship.
Researchers say that tension and weight gain are caused by unknown causes and consequences. To solve this problem, both sides must work together. Psychiatrist Gail sotez said: “you have to think about how to get your partner to help you without getting angry with them… You have to act like a team and make the overweight party feel supported.”
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