“This is a season of love. The air is full of lovers. It’s shameful to be alone.” More than a decade ago, this song became popular in the streets and alleys. People also remembered the classic expression that lonely people are shameful while enjoying love. However, in today’s society where leftover men and women are popular, “singles” may despise them. In their view, loneliness is not shameful, and even loneliness has become the goal pursued by many people. Helpless or voluntary, “leftover men and leftover women” has become a fashionable phenomenon in the city. Their appearance has also quietly led to some changes in society.
The social atmosphere is more open and free
It is a traditional Chinese concept that a man should marry and a woman should marry. However, the “leftover men and women” in the new era are not overly anxious about being single. “Single nobles” not only do not avoid it, but also call themselves “leftover men and leftover women” optimistically. One “leftover woman” believes that this means that the social atmosphere has become more open and free, and independent and successful women can choose their feelings and lives more freely.
According to the Yangtse Evening News, an expert said when the word “leftover” became popular that young people like to call themselves “leftover men” and “leftover women” and do not express their negative feelings that they think are superfluous. On the contrary, when “leftover” becomes a popular keyword, such self labeling of “leftover” should be understood as a kind of neutral self ridicule.
“Love school” came into being
The existence of a large number of leftover men and women makes some “love schools” come into being. It is reported that at present, “love training classes” with various themes have quietly appeared in Beihai, Guangxi, which professionally guide young men and women to deal with gender relations and enhance their attraction to the opposite sex, and are favored by single white-collar workers who “strip off” as soon as possible.
According to a person in charge of a dating club, many white-collar workers perform excellently at work, but they suffer repeated defeats in the love field, and do not know how to deal with emotional problems between the two sexes. “Emotional intelligence credits” have become an important consideration for white-collar workers’ success in marriage and love. The resulting “love school” will gradually help these white-collar workers with “emotional intelligence lessons” from the aspects of love etiquette, psychology and communication skills, so as to enhance their personal charm.
“Economically applicable men” are sought after
Although the life of “leftover women” is full of freedom and free and easy, such a lonely life is not a long-term solution after all. Those unmarried women who want to tear off the label of “leftover women” have quietly changed their goals in choosing a mate: the rich and unrestrained “diamond king” is no longer popular, and the economically applicable men who live up to their names “surface”.
What kind of man is “economical man”? A netizen of chinanews.com made a very incisive summary: stable income, dedicated work, general appearance and single-minded feelings. The most classic description of economically applicable men on the Internet is: “those who are more family oriented than my husband are not as rich as my husband, and those who are more wealthy than my husband are not family oriented.” This also shows the direct reason why “economically applicable men” are popular.
A netizen on chinanews.com said that my current boyfriend is an economical man. I can’t say how good he is to me. There are no expensive gifts, but I can pay you the overdue mobile phone and broadband at the first time; There is no romantic date, but you can make a rich dinner for me; There is no sweet talk, but it can respond with a silly smile when I am nervous. So he gave up many pursuers. I chose a plain, quiet and happy life.
Perfectionism or idealism is the reason why a considerable number of leftover women are “alone”. However, under the current background, more and more leftover women’s concept of choosing a spouse is gradually approaching to “nothing is true”. Some media pointed out that the preference for economically applicable men is a rational return of their concept of choosing a spouse.
Parents encourage their children to fall in love in College
The overwhelming news on the “old and serious problems” of leftover men and women in the media has also inadvertently changed the parents of college students who belong to the “reserve service”: they no longer oppose their children’s love during college. According to the report of modern express, a survey on “New Year’s greetings” by a college shows that parents are no longer like “turning pale when talking about love” in middle school. On the contrary, some parents encourage their children not to miss the opportunity to fall in love in their spare time.
It is reported that in a survey of 102 college students, only 30 parents explicitly oppose their children’s falling in love, 15 parents encourage their children to fall in love, and the remaining parents do not encourage or oppose “delegating power” to their children. Instead of being leftover men and women in the future, it is better to have a sincere feeling in the University. Parents’ actions seem to be proactive.
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