netizen tiger preserved egg letter: the sky is always blue. Hello! Before the Chinese new year, I found out that my wife cheated on me, and she admitted it herself. In fact, I’m a very good person. I never lose my temper with her. I carry everything at home and abroad. I don’t smoke or drink much. I go home on time after work. I never ask what she buys and how much she sends to her home on New Year’s festivals. However, I was so kind to her, and she still did something wrong to me. For more than a year, I was kept in the dark. Now, I feel that everything has changed. She is no longer the woman for whom I am willing to give everything. Sometimes I don’t even want to say a word more to her. No matter how kind she is to me, I think she is just trying to please me, or she still deceives me like before. Maybe one day she will run to bed with a man when I am not aware. The sky is always blue. I’m really tangled. I’m drunk every day. I don’t know where to go in this marriage. We also have a four-year-old daughter. If we divorce, it will be extremely detrimental to her growth. Teacher, can you give me some advice?
the sky is always blue reply: Hello, tiger skin egg! I can understand your feelings very much. As a man, the biggest pain is that his woman is wearing a green hat without knowing it. What’s more, you are a man who loves his family so much and has a sense of responsibility. But with all due respect, your wife’s infidelity has something to do with you to a certain extent. It’s because your character is so good, because you let her do everything, because you make her feel at ease and comfortable, and because you don’t have a bit of control and control over her ability, it makes her full of lust and makes her easy to ignore your existence
The sky is always blue. I always believe that as a man, no matter how much you love your own woman, you must have your own principles and bottom line. You can spoil her, but you can’t let her do everything. That is to say, you must have a trump card that can lower her at critical times. This is not male chauvinism, this is the art of controlling your wife, and this is the way of marriage.
In fact, it’s not just you. There are five qualities of a man that can easily lead to his wife cheating. They are:
first, pedantic man
The characteristics of pedantic men are stubbornness, conservatism and a penchant for dogmatism. But women are born like water. Spirituality is the life of water. It needs movement and change to maintain its activities. Thus, a pedantic man is doomed to be unpopular with women, not to mention that this man is the wife who lives together every day. It is difficult for any woman to bear such a man. Every woman likes to listen to men say nice things, like men to be tolerant, like men to surprise them, like men to coax her, but these are the natural defects of pedantic men.
secondly, a wooden man
Wooden men generally lack subjective initiative in marriage and life. Their wives say and do everything, and they are not very good at talking. If their wives want them to make jokes and play romantic games, it is simply more difficult than going to heaven. In the face of such a boring man, if a woman meets a man who can coax a little woman outside, she is likely to be deceived into cheating. After all, she is thirsty for rain and lacks immune experience at ordinary times.
Third, a man with too good a character
The tiger skin egg in the article just belongs to this kind of man. To put it bluntly, your character is too good. You will spoil her whatever she thinks and does. Anyway, right and wrong are all attitudes. Women will be spoiled over time. Although the sky is always blue, she has been strongly opposed to the use of force and whip against women, but women really can’t rely on her too much, otherwise marriage will become a talk, and men will be a shadow to her, even the least respect can’t be talked about, so it’s strange that women don’t cheat.
fourthly, a man without a sense of responsibility
Women need a sense of security, and the most taboo thing about security is men’s playfulness and lack of responsibility for the family. When a man’s character is seen through or even disappointed by women, they are very likely to instinctively take an active and positive attitude to seek another sense of security, that is, to find other men outside, or to be moved by other excellent men. Although there is a retaliatory psychology when they step out of this step, the instinctive self psychological defense is the most fundamental point.
fifth, selfish and narrow-minded men
In the words of the wife whose sky is always blue, “there is no man in the world who is more terrible than a selfish and narrow-minded man!”. I believe that the majority of women have this view. If a man is selfish and narrow-minded, it is an extremely sad thing. It can cut out and crush any hard emotion like a knife blade. He will drive women crazy, make them lose their reason, make others look down upon him, and make marriage invisible. If a woman meets such a man, she will be forced to derail if she is not scared away. After all, people have to have something to trust in their spirit. Of course, selfishness and narrowness are still a relative concept. The sky is always blue. I think that as long as it is not too much, as long as you are not alone in your heart, if you can share or tolerate your women, then such selfishness and narrowness may still be tolerated.
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