More and more women don’t understand how developed his language cells used to be, whether it was the man in the infatuation stage or the first marriage stage: an hour ago, he saw you eloquently telling of his love, and an hour later, when he saw you again, he was still eloquent in expressing his love… When a leaf fell from your head, he would be like a poem, full of emotion and emotion; When you say “it’s good to have a family” in a meaningless way, he will talk with you for hours with witty words… Now, what’s wrong with this? After only a few years of marriage, he has become a “stuffy pot”. Some people say: men are action animals.
then, what does it mean behind a man’s silence
Mark, a British sociologist, found through investigation that men speak half as much as women every day. But men also mostly use it in their circle of friends and work, and the chat with their loved ones may be less than 15 minutes a day, and the amount of words used is not more than 10%. In fact, men have many ways to be silent, and each of them may be the beginning of a heart to heart dialogue. The premise is that you should know what they really want to say, and then take corresponding countermeasures.
protest with silence
Women like to establish and consolidate relationships through conversation. At home, they like to show their leadership status and show concern for men by nagging. Men don’t think so. No matter how eloquent and spitting lotus flowers before marriage, men after marriage are more willing to say their specific wishes directly, such as “I want to go out to dinner with you tonight”, “I want to rest” and “I want to have a meeting”. However, women can’t stand it. The more men are like this, the more women have something to say. Many times, because of women’s nagging, the noisy sky at home and outside is the same. At this time, a man often appears more rational than a woman. In the face of a woman’s nagging, he will not directly refute – that is undoubtedly dropping a bomb at home; He won’t scold rudely – that’s undoubtedly half the result with twice the effort. Many men are accustomed to silence. On the one hand, they express their emotions, thoughts and attitudes at that time by silence, and on the other hand, they deliberately keep a distance from each other by silence. Women will feel particularly hurt for this. In this regard, women often say that “they have no feelings, they are cold-blooded”, which is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more used to communicating their feelings and admiration with their hearts. The more a woman nags, the farther a man will be from you. Although he is silent, a “protective wall” has been erected in his heart.
use silence to regulate body and mind
Boys have received “backbone” education such as conquering the world, standing tall and taking responsibility since childhood: when they grow up, no matter how helpless and tired they are, how difficult and frustrating they are, how cruel the blow is, how heavy the burden is, and how great the pressure is… They can’t cry to vent, wash away with tears, and vent their feelings like women. The only thing they can do is silence. Reflecting in silence, conditioning in silence, gaining momentum in silence, licking wounds in silence.
Therefore, when a man comes home with heavy steps, when he sits on the sofa without saying a word, and when he turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not bossy, make trouble, daydream, or even ask for help. Maybe he was exhausted just after the conversation with the customer, or he was facing the grind of his life and career, feeling hurt and tired. At this time, he was silent to recuperate, and he was reborn in silence. At this time, you might as well give him an hour to say “goodbye” to his daytime work. After that, he may show amazing interest in any of your questions.
Here’s a special reminder: when a man is tired physically and mentally, if he is still interested in watching TV, then don’t turn off the TV when he is watching the news broadcast, and then say with concern: “if you’re tired, take an early rest. What else is watching TV?” It should be noted that most career oriented men are more concerned about politics, and your “care and care” can only backfire. But you can insert some comfort words in the gaps of the advertising programs.
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