Often asked the same question by netizens, how do you view the AA system between husband and wife? The sky is always blue. Frankly speaking, the AA system between husband and wife can be said to be a kind of progress of modern civilization and marriage. However, more people care about and imitate it, which makes it taste bad. Even many people blindly worship the AA system between husband and wife, thinking that it is a symbol of fashion advancement and modern wisdom. Is this really the case in real life? In fact, as far as the sky is always blue, in today’s Chinese society, couples who can’t really accept the AA system emotionally and psychologically still account for the majority.
The reason is very simple. There are certain negative things in the AA system between husband and wife. It will weaken people’s family concept, easily unbalance the balance of marriage, make the position of the sacrificing party in marriage not properly protected, and make the division of family work deviate
Therefore, the AA system between husband and wife does not need to blindly follow the trend. It must be different from time to time according to the situation of both sides of their marriage and the external environment. As the sky is always blue, the AA system between husband and wife should meet at least the following five conditions:
first, both husband and wife have relatively independent and stable sources of income
If one party in a marriage does not have enough stable financial resources, implementing the AA system between husband and wife will undoubtedly stab the other party in the eternal blue sky. Even if the relatively weak party is willing to do so, it is still harmful to marriage harmony and family happiness.
secondly, the husband and wife are relatively trust and stable emotionally.
The sky is always blue. What is really difficult to implement the AA system between husband and wife is not the economic AA system. It is only a form at most. If the AA system is to be implemented for a really long time, the most crucial and difficult point is the mutual trust and stability between husband and wife emotionally.
As some female netizens and the sky is always blue said: I have my own income, and the money I earn is completely enough for my own use. I ask about his money not to control it, nor to use it, but to really worry about where he will spend it!
This is the core of the problem. Even mutual trust has disappeared. No matter how the AA system is, it is just empty talk. It will even become a reasonable excuse for husband and wife to distance themselves and apathy.
thirdly, the husband and wife have relatively unified life planning and financial planning under the framework of the AA system
In fact, it is impossible to distinguish between husband and wife. You can put every cent of your monthly income in your own hands, don’t need any money from the other party, don’t let the other party use anything you buy, and do everything you can to be indifferent. All these can be done. But for the general direction of the whole life, it is difficult. When husband and wife form a family, there will be risks, opportunities, development and other problems in the family. When a house is bought for 500000 yuan, it will become one million yuan in a few years. One party will continue to live and the other party will sell the house. From the perspective of the AA system, each party has half of the control, but the house can’t be sold in two. There is also the cost of children. Even if adults can achieve the AA system, it is still difficult for children to achieve it emotionally and emotionally… For example, couples who can’t even unify their basic life plans are obviously not suitable for the AA system. Of course, it’s OK to play personality and romance in a short period of time, but it’s OK to play the game of marriage occasionally.
fourthly, both husband and wife allow each other a certain amount of private space
Unless the income difference between husband and wife is not big, implementing the AA system will interfere with private space. Just think, the rich party can take a taxi, eat Western food and buy expensive clothes, so does the party without money manage or ignore it? No matter what, you are giving up your marital power, and no matter what, you are interfering in other people’s private space, unless you can spend as much as he does every day, or let him willingly pay for your dinner. No matter how it is calculated, it can only be regarded as a game in marriage at most. Unless, the two sides can be generous enough not to interfere in each other’s life at all, and allow each other to have a certain private space.
fifthly, both husband and wife have a certain pre position consciousness or social level
Finally, how to implement and restrict the AA system between husband and wife is a matter of rules of the game. However, in order to truly implement it, there must be ideological recognition. So what kind of couples are relatively more receptive to the AA system between husband and wife? It seems that the sky is always blue, which requires a certain pre consciousness or social level. At least the things and living environment you come into contact with should be more advanced than traditional concepts, at least you advocate personal independence and freedom, and at least you have come into contact with some successful precedents of the relatively successful and harmonious AA system. From a certain point of view, these are inextricably linked to the ideology and cultural level of both husband and wife. As a girl in my hometown said, “if you drink a bottle of drinks on the first date, he will only pay for himself. If such a man kills me, I can’t marry him!” The girl is right in saying this, and other boys are right in doing so. The wrong thing is that they are in different time and space and environments. To put it simply, they are people from two worlds.
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