“Joint venture love” can be said to be “success and failure”. When two people are good, they think in one place and exert themselves in the same place, taking advantage of the favorable time, place and people. However, once hit, “joint venture love” is also the most vulnerable combination. Some partners in work have become lovers over time, and some couples have started a thing together. This kind of love is called “joint venture love”.
Do you dare to try “joint venture love”?
Chao Yahong, 32 years old this year, has changed five foreign companies. Her salary is getting higher and higher. She has become a competent employee of the Department. It seems that everything is going well. At present, the only annoying problem is marriage.
Compared with his girlfriends around him, his appearance and temperament are not bad, and his ability to work and live is not bad. Why is he still alone? Chao Yahong herself wondered why, even though she was busy and had few contacts with the opposite sex, there were always a large number of male partners she knew at work, and there were also many who were good-looking and had reasonable conditions. Although everyone often talked and laughed during work, why has no one ever invited her to a movie in private, let alone shot Cupid’s arrow.
Maybe Miss Chao can only get the answer by jumping out of her own business. In fact, it’s not that she has any problems, but that she doesn’t know when the emotional story of “joint venture” has become a taboo for many white-collar workers. The consensus is that don’t fall in love with your work partners and business partners. How reasonable is this?
Fall in love with your boss
Chen Ming is one of the main principals of a company, and miss Bihui is his effective subordinate. The love relationship between two people is no longer a secret in the company. Although Bihui pays attention everywhere not to let her colleagues feel that she is “bullying others”, she will still be the target of criticism by colleagues in private every time there is a conflict.
If you change a company, Bihui will also become the right-hand man of the upper level with her ability. But in this company, everyone thinks that she can stand out by virtue of her “vase Kung Fu”. Female colleagues looked at her sideways, while male colleagues also kept her at a distance.
If Bihui can be complacent about her “special status”, it’s just that she is also a hardworking person who wants to make achievements in her work. She is very painful about her embarrassing position in the company. She thought she might as well change company, but Chen Ming kept her in a dilemma.
Suggestion: if your romantic partner happens to be your boss, and you are not willing to enjoy success under his umbrella, then your correct choice is to change your job: transfer to another unrelated department, or simply work in another company. Otherwise, such “office love” will do more harm than good to career and emotional development.
I fell in love with my client
Miss Yimin is the business backbone of a network company, mainly responsible for contacting major customers. In the course of coming and going, I fell in love with Mr. Fang, the head of a major customer.
After their relationship was exposed, Yimin felt the pressure from the company. Originally, the relationship between the company and customers is a matter of two-way choice, and it is very normal for orders to run. However, since knowing that Yimin is Mr. Fang’s girlfriend, her company has decided that Mr. Fang’s company has an “obligation” to buy their products. Moreover, if there is a problem, as long as Yimin comes forward, everything can be turned into friendship.
If there is a problem with the quality of the goods in a transaction, the company also hopes that Yimin will persuade Mr. Fang not to pursue it as much as possible to reduce the company’s losses.
Similarly, when Yimin put pressure on Mr. Fang, Mr. Fang also felt very unhappy. Once love is linked with interests, people have to doubt its purity. Mr. Fang even felt that Yimin had “impure motives” in his contacts, which made Yimin angry and they parted unhappily.
At this time, Yimin found that her choice of love had forced her career from the Yangguan avenue to the Dugu bridge.
Suggestion: the first step Yimin should take at this time is to have a serious conversation with the manager of his company, and clarify his attitude of never mixing career and love. The second step is to gradually let other grass-roots salespeople of the company take over Mr. Fang’s business, and they will not be involved in all the details, so that both sides can do business without seeking personal feelings.
In this way, even if Yimin’s love relationship with Mr. Fang hits a rock in the future, it will not cause too much damage to Yimin’s career.
I work for my boyfriend
Xu Qian’s boyfriend opened a small advertising company. After graduating from school, Xu Qian began to work for her boyfriend. There are only three or four people in the company, including an accountant who only comes twice a week, so most of the time they are both busy in the office.
Boyfriend is still in the initial stage of entrepreneurship, so sometimes he can’t avoid being irritable. After encountering setbacks, the two of them frowned together. After work, they didn’t have the heart to go out to happy like in the past. After this situation lasted for a period of time, the two separated unhappily.
Xu Qian concluded: “Putting love and career together makes the easy life unbearable. There is also a negative effect: when I looked for a job again, I found that my working experience with him was basically blank. I didn’t learn the good working methods in a regular company or how to deal with interpersonal relationships among colleagues. In short, I didn’t get anything except a failed relationship.”
Suggestion: it’s very simple. Even if you are in love, don’t work for your boyfriend. Leave his company and go to the outside world to find the starting point of his career. Don’t let the work set cover your emotional set.
Divorce without leaving home
The above cases are all lightweight in “joint venture” love, and the damage caused is not the greatest. The situation of Mr. Kaifeng and Miss Zhang man is even more representative.
The two of them were classmates in college. After they got married, they decided to set up their own company. After a lot of hard work, they made a small company prosperous.
Just as the business was getting more and more smooth, there was something wrong with their feelings. At this time, Zhang man was very distressed. The company he co founded was more troublesome than the children’s problem.
The name of Kaifeng was used when the company was registered. Once the two people separated, Zhang man should also leave the company. Even if the company’s assets are evenly distributed, the company legally belongs to Kaifeng, no matter how much effort Zhang man has made for it.
It takes too much courage and effort to start a new business. Zhang man really can’t make up his mind. At this time, don’t expect men to have any modest “Gentlemanliness”. Men are also very selfish in the face of livelihood matters.
The women in this case often have a high level of knowledge and work ability. They are bent on starting a business with their boyfriend, but find that when there is a crisis in their relationship, the building of their business is about to collapse.
Suggestion: at this time, it is useless to regret. All measures are to “mend the fold after the sheep is lost” and minimize the loss. First, negotiate with the other party to strive for the greatest interests, and at least get a part of the company’s assets to compensate for their efforts and time over the years.
Then give yourself a holiday to do something you’ve always wanted to do but don’t have time to do. After a thorough rest, you can look at the road you’ve traveled with a calm attitude. At this time, you can ask yourself, what do you want to do next? Do you want to continue to work hard or live a peaceful life?
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