Men have tears, don’t hold back

There are also works such as “the husband has tears, and does not flow to other times”, “the man does not have tears, and does not flow because of separation” Ming Gao Zecheng’s Pipa records: “when a husband does not shed tears, his bones and flesh are separated and his intestines are cut off. Emotional impulse is an important reason for tears, such as the saying” when parting “.

The original meaning of the saying is that husbands and men are also emotional. They do not shed tears when they leave their relatives and friends, but deliberately control their emotions. There are also works such as “the husband has tears, and does not flow to other times”, “the man does not have tears, and does not flow because of separation”.

A popular example is Ming Cui Shipei’s the romance of the Western Chamber: “when I left, I joined hands and wanted to part, but I sprinkled my sadness of separation on both sides. Mo Dao’s husband didn’t have tears, and indeed he didn’t sprinkle it when I left.” Ming Gao Zecheng’s “the pipa”: “when a husband leaves without tears, his bones and flesh are separated and his intestines are cut.” Ye Xianzu of the Ming Dynasty wrote in Yi Shui Han: “look at this merciless Yi Shui. The west wind is blowing. I just feel that the reed flowers are cold in the lonely boat at night, and only the mulberry trees are falling. I look at Binzhou from afar. If I want to meet again, I can be free. Who knows if my husband has tears, I won’t flow to other times.”

Medical significance tear is the secretion of the lacrimal gland in the eye, which is only 0.5-0.6 grams per day. As a filling agent, it makes the cornea smooth and smooth, so as to facilitate light from all directions to enter the eyeball; As a lubricant, it moistens the cornea and conjunctiva on the surface of the eyeball to prevent them from drying up and becoming rough; As a cleaning agent, it can wash away or dilute the dust, sand and foreign matters that have invaded the eyes, so as to reduce the damage to the cornea and conjunctiva; As a disinfectant, it constantly patrols the surface of the eyeball, captures bacteria and viruses that enter the eye at any time, and dissolves them. Therefore, under normal circumstances, we do not see people shed tears.

Emotional impulse is an important reason for tears, such as the saying “when parting”. The poems of Du Fu of the Tang Dynasty (618 – 907), “there are feelings and tears in life, but the rivers and flowers are not the end”, and Xu Xun of the Ming Dynasty (1368 – 1644), “we know how many tears we will have in ten years’ absence, but we will have more tears when we meet again.” all describe these feelings and scenes. This is because the stimulation of extraordinary emotions caused a sharp increase in tears secreted by the lacrimal glands, and the lacrimal passage had no time to excrete for a while, so that tears burst out.

The results of an investigation show that the incidence rate of neurasthenia, gastric and duodenal ulcer is significantly higher among men who “cry more than men”. Dr. William Frey, an American biologist, explained that tears can vent repressed emotions, create a new balance in psychological state, and discharge dangerous toxins generated in the body’s stress response; People who hold back their tears not only have depression of mental state, but also mean that they are chronically poisoned. Both are time bombs that increase the chance of morbidity of the body, and they may explode at any time.

Hu Yi, another medical doctor, believes that crying is also closely related to people’s life span. Vulnerable women who love to cry often live longer than determined men who don’t. Mr. Lu Xun said: “ruthlessness is not necessarily a true hero. How can a pitiful son not be a husband?” People with seven emotions and six desires should cry when they should, and it’s not shameful. My husband also has tears, so why not bear them when I leave!

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