let the body “tell”
“Body language” can often convey more information and express richer emotions. According to the estimation of researchers, 55% of the first impression left by lovers on their first date depends on their appearance and “body language”, 38% depends on their speaking skills, and only 7% depends on what they say.
However, with the help of some simple psychology (even if the conversation only touches the weather), it is possible to win the love of the other party. That is, our bodies must be able to transmit some implicit positive signals to each other. What needs to be noted is: first of all, never stand in front of each other with your arms crossed; Secondly, imitating each other’s posture helps people feel a sense of closeness.
experiencing fear together
Psychological research shows that if a person’s spirit is particularly moved when he meets others, his chances of getting romantic feelings will be greatly increased.
In an experiment called “shaking the bridge” carried out in the 1970s, psychologists Adur Aron and Dan Dutton found that if a man met a woman on a constantly shaking bridge, he would feel that the other party was more sexy and romantic — to a greater extent than when he dated a woman on a low and stable bridge deck. Therefore, an experience in the amusement park may significantly increase the level of adrenaline in our bodies, thus more easily improving our marital happiness.
In addition, compared with watching those ordinary films, lovers can easily arouse their mutual love after watching a film full of suspense or tension together. As for the reason, no one can explain it. Perhaps, the increase in adrenaline concentration caused by fear plays a key role.
laugh together
Among those factors that can make men and women admire each other, a sense of humor always occupies a particularly important position. Experiencing laughter together will create a sense of closeness among strangers.
American psychologists Adur Aron and Dan Datong conducted a particularly classic experiment. They let two strangers who don’t know each other carry out some games together, such as learning to dance.
In the meantime, they blindfold one party and let the other hold a straw (to prevent them from speaking freely). Although the sounds made by these two people seem silly, reality has proved that love does appear with laughter. Therefore, in the marriage and love relationship, jokes are also indispensable to improve the happiness of marriage and love.
choose the appropriate accompaniment music
Research by American psychologists shows that soft and simple music is most conducive to emotional development. Experiments have shown that soft music is more likely to make women feel good about men, while jazz music may have the opposite effect in a completely silent environment.
use the “love panacea”
Animal experiments have shown that injection of pituitrin can make male mice strongly dependent on female mice. The researchers said that physical exercise can also increase the concentration of dopamine in the blood and make people feel happy.
In addition, the human body can also synthesize a substance called phenylethylamine (commonly known as “love molecule”), which can also move people and experience an inexplicable sense of happiness. It is reported that chocolate is also rich in phenylethylamine, a “love molecule”.
look into each other’s eyes
Eyes are a particularly effective means of emotional expression. Research by psychologists has also proved that eyes are indeed a particularly powerful weapon. Experiments have proved that when two strangers sit facing each other, it is far easier to feel close when they look at each other’s eyes than when they look at other parts of the other’s body.
Relevant psychiatrists believe that when we look at each other with someone, the brain area related to receiving reward information will be stimulated, so as to have a good impression on the other person.
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