Anger is the emotional “Gemini”. It has two sides: one is vitality, vitality, vigor and vitality; Second, it refers to anger and unhappiness because it does not conform to one’s wishes. Today, our theme is the second, that is, getting angry and losing temper.
it is said that there are generally these types of Qi
① Silent type
Full of anger hidden in his heart, he is silent, full of low pressure, does not like to ignore anyone, and is sulky.
I like to throw things. If you are in a rage, you will quarrel with people and even have a physical collision.
③ Self abusive
If you attribute all the faults to yourself, you will be irritable, anxious, blame yourself, and feel dissatisfied and disappointed.
④ Self mutilation
Once he loses his temper, he will scream, hit his head, scratch his hair, and scratch his hands with his nails.
It is often seen between lovers. When they are angry, they will deliberately quarrel with their objects. They use willful actions to show that they are angry and let the other party soften.
He is extremely aggressive, and will deliberately taunt others with mean words and strange expressions to ease his unhappiness.
⑦ Vent type
In the case of anger, as long as he drinks too much, or cries bitterly, he can ease his low mood.
⑧ Back injury type
I said it was ok with a smile on the surface, but secretly I made some small moves, which damaged people’s interests.
⑨ Fall asleep
If you are unhappy, you will put aside all things and troubles, sleep for a while, and don’t care if the sky falls, and it will automatically clear up the next day.
Xiao Jiu belongs to the last kind. How about you?
although life is not satisfactory, you should not be angry often. Anger attacks the heart, and anger hurts the liver. For those who are often angry, I think you need to know these hazards:
① Sad and dirty
A 20-year follow-up study by Harvard Medical School found that anger increased the risk of myocardial infarction (MI) or acute coronary syndrome (ACS) by 4.74 times.
② Liver injury
A study by the University of Virginia in the United States found that anger can aggravate the condition of chronic hepatitis C patients. In addition, an Israeli study published in the journal Arteriosclerosis thrombus vascular biology found that the elevated CRP level was closely related to hepatitis and liver injury.
③ Lung injury
A study completed by Dr. Benita Jackson, a physiologist at Smith College in Massachusetts, and his colleagues shows that when angry, excessive emotion, shortness of breath and even excessive ventilation will cause continuous expansion of alveoli and abnormal lung function.
④ Gastrointestinal injury
A study completed by mark babiaski, Professor of medicine at Mount Sinai School of medicine in New York, found that anger can cause sympathetic excitement, resulting in decreased gastrointestinal blood flow, reduced peristalsis, loss of appetite, and even gastric ulcer in severe cases.
The research completed by Dr. Alma, an American physiologist, found that the physical energy consumed by being angry for 10 minutes is equivalent to running a 3000 meter race. Long term anger will lead to endocrine dysfunction and low immune function of the human body, which makes cancer more likely to occur.
⑥ Sudden death
A study completed by Dr. Rachel lampat of Yale University found that angry men were not only prone to stroke, but also to sudden death. When people are angry, they are prone to brain hypoxia, shortness of breath and even sudden death.
⑦ Life lost
John balford, an expert from Duke University Medical Center, conducted a 25-year follow-up survey on 118 college students. He found that the rate of death before the age of 50 was as high as nearly 20% among the participants with a high degree of hostility to others. In contrast, the participants with the lowest “hostility” had a 5% chance of dying before the age of 50.
⑧ Damage to skin
A study by Ohio University in the United States found that anger can lead to an increase in cortisol, a stress hormone in the human body. Cortisol can lead to a decrease in two immune cells, which in turn can lead to a significant decrease in the speed of skin healing.
as the saying goes, a smile makes a young man white. Anger hurts. We must control our emotions and behaviors more
① Control emotions
Try to keep yourself calm, optimistic and magnanimous. Anger means care. If you don’t care, God and horses are floating clouds.
② Control behavior
If you can’t control your emotions, you must control your behavior. When you try to do something bad, you should restrain yourself, restrain yourself, and then restrain yourself.
If you are still angry, don’t communicate with the other party first, so as not to add gas to your anger. It’s also better not to think about anything, so as not to get into a corner. You just need to do something that doesn’t take your mind, such as watching movies, listening to songs, sleeping, and so on, to divert your attention.
④ Calm down and think again
After making sure that you have calmed down, break away from yourself, conduct a comprehensive and objective analysis as an observer, and pay attention not to be extreme and draw conclusions.
⑤ Communicate calmly
After both sides have calmed down, they must communicate face to face. When communicating, we should be calm and rational, solve contradictions in time, and end angry events. And reflect on it, don’t get angry about the same thing again.
In fact, the most important thing is to learn to heal yourself!