If you meet the wrong person, you should “cut the mess with a sharp knife”; When you meet the right person, you should take good care of and cherish it. Don’t compare with others, and don’t care about their eyes. How long you want to be in love, just be happy.
Lovers who marry by lightning usually attract the attention of others, thinking that “lightning” is the result of hasty decisions and the consequence of other hidden feelings; Others are unwilling to easily believe that love has blossomed into a promise and yielded eternal fruit among lightning couples. If it is easy to maintain a relationship, and there is no need to accommodate, force, or pressure, then there is a great chance that this relationship can last long; This kind of feeling is often bland, just like drinking boiled water. A pair of lovers whose personalities, interests, hobbies and habits are all closely integrated are as happy as meeting another self; It is also a natural result of lightning marriage entering the auditorium. The success rate of getting married quickly and maintaining a long marriage is also good, because they may just meet the right person.
On the other hand, even a couple who have been married for many years may end up in divorce; Because the length of a couple’s communication time is not necessarily proportional to the maturity of their feelings. Falling in love is not boiled eggs; Eggs can be more salted and more fragrant, but love may turn back more and more. However, how long does it take for a relationship to mature? Is it measured by “quality” or “quantity”? I’m afraid it’s beyond the comprehension of any outsider except the party concerned.
A relationship that requires long-term operation to have results may be a “wrong” relationship. Lovers need a long time to adjust to each other because of the great differences in personality and other aspects; It may be the wrong person, the wrong time, the wrong space, the wrong age and the wrong psychological maturity; The more wrong a relationship is, the longer it takes to manage it.
When two wrong people are together for a long time, they will develop a feeling of “habit”; Used to be accompanied by him, used to quarrel with him, used to his voice, used to his temper; “Habits” have worn away the thorns of each other’s personalities and covered up the fact that they are not suitable for each other. This kind of pattern, after being dragged on for a long time, will inexplicably become “feelings” and become a kind of “false feelings” that deceive oneself and others. If a love lasts too long and loses attraction, trust and ability to get along with each other, then love may break up at any time.
What is the “right” person? In ancient times, it was emphasized that “doors should be mutually matched”. Today, there is no certain standard to speak of. From a worldly and realistic point of view, if a woman wants to be handsome, rich in money, have a house, have a car, and have a beautiful “money” path, it’s better to have a man without parents to support. If a man wants a gentle, beautiful, demure and elegant woman, she’d better have a job with a good income. From the perspective of refined sensibility, a pair of “partners” who can connect with each other, have common hobbies and goals are the other half of a “pair”.
However, things in the world are always difficult, and a pair of partners who pursue artistic ideals may not be able to take into account the seven things in real life; And a pair of money obsessed partners may not necessarily have a spiritual fit. Realistic or ideal? An individual must have a weight in his heart to measure objectively and accurately: measure his own conditions and abilities with a worldly vision; Weigh your talents and heart from the perspective of sensibility. If one’s scores in the secular and emotional aspects are of the highest quality, he is also qualified to “select” others; On the contrary, we must be modest, sincere and down-to-earth to “pursue” others. The selection is analyzed from the perspective of the superior, and the pursuit is to deal with the world with the attitude of the subordinate; There is no law to protect the feelings before marriage, so men and women in the world must be cautious. It is often said that “your honey may be his poison”. If you meet the wrong person, you should “cut the mess with a sharp knife”; When you meet the right person, you should take good care of and cherish it, “choose what you love, and love what you choose”; Don’t compare with others, and don’t care about their eyes. Just be happy for how long you want to be in love!
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