See through your character through the mantra

Many people have a sentence that appears most frequently every day, which is his mantra. Please recall what is your mantra? Everyone’s every move has its psychological root, so the mantra is also a reaction of your inner real world. From what you are used to saying, we can see what kind of person you are and what impact you will have!

Event: my colleague Xiao Wang is a very popular person in the office. He is lively and resourceful, and everyone is willing to talk to him, because his phrase “not bad!” In a fast-paced workplace, it has the power to turn corruption into magic.

That day, my colleague Sister Li rushed into the office breathlessly, dropped her bag, sat down, took the time card in her hand, fanned the wind and complained: “I’ve never seen a driver with such meat. Today, I went out five minutes earlier than usual. As a result, the ‘noodle’ driver caught all the red lights, causing me to get off the car and run for a while. How dangerously I hit the card at 8:58!”

“Not bad!” Xiao Wang’s mantra came out again, “it’s not bad. I’m not late. The driver has calculated the time for you. Isn’t it 2 minutes richer?” Sister Li smiled and said, “well, quandang has lost weight by running.”

This “not bad” mantra of Xiao Wang needs to be said N times a day. When encountering happy things, it is undoubtedly icing on the cake. When encountering annoying things, Xiao Wang’s mantra plus his tolerant and objective persuasion is undoubtedly a timely help. As some colleagues have said, Xiao Wang is a “pistachio”!

A saying indirectly reflects a person’s character

In the workplace, it is not easy to be as popular as Xiao Wang, and his mantra has also benefited him a lot.

“Really boring”, “bored”, “wrong”… In daily life, these mantras are often poured into our ears. Some of them are subjective and proud, on the contrary, some are euphemistic and modest. So, what kind of psychology does the mantra reflect?

A mantra is a view of things in people’s hearts. It is a fixed language reaction pattern formed by the psychological processing of external information, so that it will blurt out when similar situations occur.

As a subconscious expression, a mantra can help us to know someone. Because the mantra reflects people’s mood, a state of mind at that time, and also indirectly reflects a person’s personality.

A mantra is the result of the influence and cumulative effect of major events on people

There are only two reasons for the formation of the mantra: the impact of major events on people and the cumulative effect. For example, a passionate young man is sincerely involved in love, and love deceives him. When he loses love, he may sneer at love for a period of time. His mantra may be “love is pure nonsense!”

When a person encounters the same situation many times, the cumulative effect will be shown in his mantra. If you encounter many times in your life, such as turning a blind eye to a dead man, deceiving and abducting, it is not difficult to understand why there are “people now, who can’t compare with the past!” That’s a mantra.

Once upon a time, in CCTV’s eight sets of popular Korean drama “come on, Jinshun”, I said, “come on! Come on!” This sentence appears in almost every episode. It is the mantra of the heroine in the play. Every time she encounters difficulties, she clenches her right hand and bends her arms, shouting “come on!”, To encourage oneself to overcome difficulties and enhance self-confidence. Such a mantra urges people to make progress and encourages people to be positive, which is what we should promote.

A mantra is a channel for people’s psychological catharsis

Positive mantras inspire people to make progress, while some have negative meanings. So are these negative sounding mantras necessarily bad?

It is now popular to talk about “depression”. Is it true that everything is depressed and everything is depressed? In fact, this is just because modern people have great pressure in life and rapid changes in mentality. Pouring out bitter water through such a mantra can provide a channel for relaxation and catharsis. In this way, it is more beneficial to people’s mental health.

And students always talk about “I’m dead” when they take exams.

In fact, this is a kind of psychological defense mechanism of people. Psychological defense mechanism is a way to make some positive and adaptive changes between oneself and the real relationship in a certain psychological way or means, so as to make oneself more receptive and not cause excessive psychological tension and pain, so as to protect psychological peace. Students first estimate the situation to be worse, and then reinforce it through mantras. When the actual situation may not be so bad, they can get psychological comfort in time. This can be regarded as self psychological healing.

Three kinds of mantras are harmful to mental health

Three kinds of mantras that are harmful to people’s mental health should not be used. “I can’t”, “my face” and “I’m stage fright” are the mantras we can often hear in life. This kind of negative evaluation that is constantly strengthened through negative information will lead to people’s inferiority complex, which is really harmful to their mental health.

The second category is those mantras that people should abandon that can create stereotypes, such as “ten merchants and nine traitors!” “Can we do without red envelopes?” Because from the psychological point of view, stereotype refers to people’s behavior in social life according to their previous experience. Once these inherent views are formed, they will be strengthened and become stereotypes, which will be used as the basis for judging and evaluating others. These stereotyped mantras will bring prejudice to people, which is not conducive to interpersonal harmony and physical and mental health.

The third category is such mantras as “make do”, “boring” and “it’s really boring to live”, which can infect others with negative emotions. If you don’t abandon those mantras, you will become an unwelcome person in social life.

In short, don’t underestimate these simple mantras. Parents can find the hidden psychological problems by caring for their children’s mantras, enterprise leaders listen to their subordinates’ mantras, and friends and colleagues attach importance to them. They can see the big from the small, and intervene and solve psychological problems as soon as possible.

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