In October last year, my uncle’s cousin, who is nearly 30 years old, finally got married. Because I was out of town, I couldn’t attend the wedding. However, it is said that the woman is my cousin’s primary school classmate. She is beautiful. Her family is called a good one. Her mother not only married a house, but also bought a car for her cousin. It can only be said that the younger brother and daughter-in-law are able parents, so they don’t have to worry about material life, let alone the economic conditions of the man’s family.
Of course, you may say that the woman’s family has money, so there is no need to worry about her future. If she has too much money to spend in her next life, she can lead a comfortable life. In this way, it is natural to focus on love first, not to worry about the man’s economic foundation, and there is no need to ask the man to buy a house and a car under the name of greed. And when my mother has no ability, no background and no money, we have no choice but to go out and let others scold us. As long as we get a man’s house, we can marry in style and glory. Everything else is secondary. As a result, more and more men think that women are too harsh, and ask the man to have money and skills, and sign the woman’s name after buying the house. A slight mistake may cause the man’s efforts to be wasted and he will become a bridegroom to be abandoned by the woman!
Moreover, after marriage, women also have a lot of requirements for men, such as going home on time after work, turning in all their wages, and doing some housework. Even more serious, some women still forbid the man to have too close contact with his in laws. Therefore, men think that women have more than half of the sky, and they should cover the sky. And there are more and more groups complaining that women are more and more strict with men. Even many men feel that their dignity has been challenged, and women have long begun to oppress men. However, is it true that women are willing to be so harsh on men? How demanding are women on men? Is it true that I don’t love you without a house and a car?
Since ancient times, women have been dominated by families and men. In this lifetime, giving birth to children, taking care of domestic affairs, and serving men and parents-in-law have become the whole life of women. And women’s physical structure and nature are indeed more suitable than men to take care of children, take care of domestic affairs and serve the elderly. Therefore, women in ancient times strictly observed the three obediences and four virtues, and tried to make themselves a good wife and mother praised by everyone. Even if it is not the so-called good wife and mother, the ancient regulations on repudiation of wives are quite strict. Without seven mistakes, you have no right to repudiate your original wife. Moreover, as a man, you must raise a large family. Although your house does not need to be transferred to the name of your original wife, you must not bully your original wife to the point of leaving the house clean. Therefore, although women at that time had to endure men’s wives and concubines, in fact, the strict divorce regulations also protected the interests of the original spouse to a certain extent. Moreover, ancient men did not have as many wives and concubines as we said. In ancient times, the law stipulated that a man could only have one original wife who was married in an open and honest manner, and the others could only be concubines. Even in some areas, there are strict requirements for taking concubines, such as taking concubines only when the original spouse can not bear children. Moreover, although it was normal to marry concubines in ancient times, most people still rarely had the pleasure of having concubines in groups. After all, raising a woman requires a certain economic foundation. Therefore, most of the wives and concubines are emperors, officials and rich people.
But now, with the sweeping of the women’s liberation movement, women can go out to earn money to supplement their families like men, and some women even go far beyond men’s earning power. This should be a good thing, that is to say, women share part of the burden of supporting the family, which makes the burden on men’s shoulders much easier. Then, if a woman asks you to have time to do some housework, asks you to help filial piety to her father-in-law and mother-in-law, and asks you to do this or that, why not? What’s more, a woman who has worked for the same day has to do housework when she comes home, bear the consequences of pregnancy and childbirth that may affect her career development, and take care of her children and even your parents. What’s wrong with her wanting your house? What’s more, in today’s society, it seems that men and women are equal, but in fact, in terms of work treatment, marriage and love, women are still silently suffering from many unfair treatments. She took a lot of risks to marry you and decided to love you until she died. She even worried about the intrusion of junior three and junior four at any time. How can you buy a woman’s youth and her heart for you no matter how valuable your house is? So, what qualifications do you have to say that women are too strict with you? If you want a woman to behave like she did in the past, you must also have the capital to support her all her life, and let her always depend on her! Can you promise? If you can’t guarantee to be responsible for women all your life, you are still here questioning women’s intention to have a house and questioning that women’s requirements are too unreasonable, I can only say that you really don’t look like a man. You slept outside with a young lady and a second wife, and enjoyed her body feast. You still have to give someone a certain material reward. What’s more, the wife who has paid so much for you, why not give her a house in return and compensation? In the final analysis, no matter how strong a woman is outside, she is still a weak side in marriage and love, and there is a situation where the gains outweigh the losses. So, if you really love her, don’t haggle over the property and her requirements for you. She asks you so because she has no sense of security, she is worried that you won’t want her anymore, and she treats you like this because she loves you. In addition, China’s education on love is seriously lacking, and you, too, will not know how to love your relatives around you. But if she bears children for you, and takes on the heavy responsibility of supporting the family and even mortgage with you, you should cherish her!
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