Nowadays, with the development of society, most people’s ideas are gradually becoming open. Especially for women, there are fewer and fewer women who are virgins when they get married. According to the analysis of a large number of survey data in recent years, there are many extreme concepts and ideas about the psychological motivation of women’s premarital sexual behavior. From the perspective of sexual psychology and sociology, it can be summarized as the following nine misunderstandings.
1. Pursue the so-called “new” love style
Some young people mistakenly believe that the way of love in the new era is to have sexual relations easily. Under the psychological control of keeping up with the latest trends, they quickly moved from first love to hot love, and from marginal sexual behavior to core sexual behavior. A survey found that 44.67% of women had sexual relations many times within half a year, of which 50.33% expressed willingness and 80.33% considered it a personal matter.
2. Advocating various sexual freedom concepts
In recent years, some young people blindly advocate various western sexual freedom concepts and have a strong self-consciousness to break through the so-called traditional sexual morality. In the survey, 32.67% of women thought that “chastity is not very important”, and 19.7% of women said that it doesn’t matter at all after sexual intercourse, and said that “that’s all”. As soon as the concept changes, the behavior changes. When their love is still in a state of not knowing how to control the boat of life rationally, they are burned by desire and have sex that should not happen too early.
Some have periodic relationships with their boyfriends, and some have a premonition that they will not eventually get married, but that special relationship is still the same. Twisted sexual concepts make twisted sexual behavior out of control.
3. Sex has gradually removed its veil of concealment.
For some young women, it is no longer “turning pale when talking about sex” and being shy to talk about it, but talking about sexuality is as relaxed and normal as talking about appetite. However, because many books and periodicals focus on the introduction of organs and sexual life content, lack of sexual psychology and moral education, and the increase of neutral aesthetic lens in movies and TV, as well as the phenomenon of waist over shoulder, hugging and kissing on the street and street, this cultural atmosphere makes the vague consciousness and curiosity about sex in teenage girls more deepened and realistic. They have to try and explore in person, so that during their love, they sometimes take the initiative to curiously put forward or refuse the sexual requirements put forward by the man. The survey showed that 64.3% of women had sex on the impulse of curiosity, and they did not regret it until they had to miscarry during pregnancy.
4. Appreciate your boyfriend’s admiration and love for you
Although they also understand that women’s chastity is very important, they can’t stand the defense line under the constant agitation of their boyfriend’s adoration and love. When her boyfriend made a sexual request, she was worried that refusing would hurt his heart, so she met her boyfriend’s sexual request in return. Such cases accounted for 18.3% of the survey. I didn’t have the feeling of this shop when I crossed the village, and I took the initiative in the process of love. However, for some men, the more active the woman is, the higher he thinks of himself and even has a sense of anxiety about the woman. In order to show their sincerity, some women would hastily commit to each other.
5. Upgrade love relationship
Many young women regard “sex” as the measure of love, and think that only sex can maintain and develop love. Under the control of this concept of sex, they gave up all their lives too quickly.
6. Maintain engagement relationship
A survey in Beijing showed that 90.7% of young men and women who had premarital sex had a clear marriage contract, but they were unable to get married for various reasons, such as lack of housing, financial difficulties, working together, and not reaching the legal minimum age for marriage. In order to maintain this engagement relationship, both parties often have sex.
7. Know your boyfriend’s sex function
Research points out that such motivations are more common in older unmarried people. They feel that it is not easy to choose a spouse, and they also expect to be happy after marriage, so they take a cautious attitude towards marriage. They are willing to have sex with their satisfied lovers before marriage to understand each other’s sexual functions.
8. Resist environmental resistance
Young men and women in love always hope to get the support and approval of people in the surrounding environment, especially parents, relatives and friends, when they know and determine their love relationship. However, if they are accidentally and violently interfered, they will not only not stop their love relationship, but also become more enthusiastic and close, and resist these resistance with the fait accompli of “raw rice cooking mature rice”.
9. Vanity
Some young women have strong vanity, and their “love” standard tends to be “Lang Cai Mei”. Therefore, in order to satisfy their vanity, some women did not hesitate to exchange their flesh for property and quickly gave up their “first time” as women. Some women were seduced by money, and “love” was constantly transferred, resulting in “unclear origin” of pregnancy.
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