letters from readers: do men and women have real friendship
He and I are high school classmates. It has been 15 years since graduation. Over the years, I have almost forgotten his existence. At an accidental classmate gathering, we left phone calls and QQS to each other. It was also an accidental time that we chatted online. Maybe it’s because there was little communication when I was reading. Now I suddenly find that he is humorous and easy-going. He also thinks that I am humorous, intelligent and very talkable. We talked for four months. Everyone was very rational and calm. The content of the chat was also very measured. Even if we were joking, we didn’t take it seriously. We just felt warm. In my heart, he is more important than a friend.
I care about him very much and love him very much. I know that he is having a difficult time. I will try my best to help him and give him 30000 yuan to help him tide over his difficulties. I sincerely hope that he can have a good time, but if I want to have any skin to skin relationship with him, I will still feel embarrassed.
Two days ago, I went back to my hometown and met him. We met almost every day, that is, chatting, going out to play, and getting along very well. But the night before I left my hometown, I drank too much wine at the classmate’s party. At that time, I felt very uncomfortable and didn’t want to leave him. As a result, I also said something wrong, saying that I actually missed him very much. This was really my feeling at that time. He said that he thanked me very much and always treated me as a sister.
Now I calm down and feel that although it is very normal and beautiful, I cried in front of him at that time. I really regret saying that now.
We were very embarrassed. Maybe he was busy, maybe he was hiding from me. In short, the previous tacit understanding was gone. I was very sad and wanted to recover it. I really didn’t want to lose his friend. What should I do? Should he explain that what he said that night was only drunken talk and tell him not to take it seriously? Or should we communicate with him, don’t have pressure, we are still good friends? It’s still better to let nature take its course. If he really wants to hide, just hide. Will we be reconciled after a long time? It is said that confidants can be met but not sought. Am I asking too much?
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