[guide] the office is always a male dominated world. For women, whether male supervisors or male subordinates, their attitude towards office romance is “no initiative, no refusal”.
The man in the office romance not only lingers in the woman’s romantic tenderness and tears, but also wants to withdraw in time later. This is the so-called “a leaf does not touch me when I pass through the flowers”. They want to be able to handle things without getting into trouble.
They don’t want to take the initiative, but they control your mind with words; They do not refuse, but corrupt your dreams with greed; They don’t promise, but they maintain their feelings with you with actions. They don’t want to be responsible, but they attack your nerves with luck, evasion and possession. Men’s inaction and refusal determine that they have no commitment and responsibility. Then, what are the reasons why they do not take the initiative and refuse? What determines their mentality?
1. Why don’t male supervisors take the initiative and refuse?
business needs:
A male boss with both career and status has basically overcome the enthusiasm of young people. They have both talent and knowledge, and can judge the hour and size up the situation calmly and rationally. They know which women will affect their future and family.
The occurrence of office romances is very close to their lives, so in order to avoid unnecessary troubles, they basically maintain a passive attitude, and even if they are moved by women’s pursuit, they should think twice.
After men have reached a certain social status, they certainly hope to be looked up to by more women. Coupled with their experience, they know more about women’s psychological characteristics. It’s hard for a man to refuse temptation, because it’s a man’s nature to be fickle. Women’s active pursuit proves their male charm. Men’s possessiveness and satisfaction make them unwilling to refuse.
emotional needs:
Most of these men who have been developed and affirmed in their careers and positions have rich emotional experiences. They have experienced the romantic youth years, the vows and vows before and after the flowers and the moon, the emotional entanglements in reality, and the pleasures and pleasures of playing tricks. These emotional experiences have made their hearts smart and indestructible, and the feelings they experience are ever-changing.
Female subordinates’ or other emotional demands they are experiencing are only a certain part of their past experience. There is no novelty, and they can’t meet their deep-seated needs, so they won’t take the initiative.
At the same time, they handle their feelings with ease and handle problems without surprise. In the face of temptation, they are more accurate. The more calm, the more indifferent. In the face of dispensable feelings and condiments in their emotional life, they have reason not to refuse, and they can make a two-way choice of yes and no for this relationship.
2. Why don’t male subordinates take the initiative and refuse?
business needs:
Those male subordinates who are in the status of ordinary employees and have not yet realized their ambitions seldom take the initiative even when facing the female superiors they like. First, women’s rights and economic advantages are far above him. For men who want to be looked up to by women, they subconsciously have an unbalanced psychological state.
On the other hand, pursuing a female boss will reduce professional reputation. Even if colleagues don’t gossip much, they will alienate themselves and be isolated. Therefore, the root of the baby tooth man’s inaction is the man’s self-esteem.
Male subordinates still dare not refuse. He will feel that the female boss is very important to his work. Rejecting her will affect his current work and life, and getting her will get more benefits.
On the other hand, as lonely urban men, even the difficulties in their career progress will make them yearn for the comfort of women and love. In addition, the financial independence of female bosses will reduce the pressure of living together after marriage, and the root of all this is the desire of men.
emotional needs:
Due to lack of age and experience, male subordinates are still immature in handling feelings. They believe in the existence of feelings, but begin to form a realistic emotional attitude and admit the helplessness and distance of reality. The gap between reality is their basic starting point in dealing with feelings.
Men’s inferiority complex and self-esteem exist at the same time. In the face of their favorite female boss or other feelings, they fall into a contradictory self vortex. They have ideas, but only stay at the level of fantasy. Their lack of rich emotional experience and skepticism of reality decide that they dare not go beyond the minefield. Inaction stems from self denial.
The immature emotional experience of male subordinates makes them still believe in the existence of feelings and look forward to being spoiled and cared for. Female bosses have both the charm of girls and the temperament of mature women when they are in love. Moreover, they have strong autonomy and can take better care of themselves in life. They are unwilling to refuse.
On the other hand, they attribute the failure of past relationships to methods and techniques. Their handling of feelings is simple and mechanical, simple and naive. In order to enrich and strengthen their inner experience and try inner stimulation and freshness, they must be passive to their female superiors. They can’t refuse or dare not refuse because they can’t handle their feelings properly.
In short, the men in the office, who are in a normal state of life, also want to taste the passion of others. It is this group of contradictory men that have created the extremely high box office success rate of bridges and in the mood for love. They both yearn for romance and are subject to social constraints, which is the reason why men do not take the initiative but do not refuse in office romances. If they refuse to take a step in the dilemma of contradictions, they will always play the ambiguous in the office.
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