first, when he “miscalculates”
Hanson was faced with a major choice: to go left, his official career would be smooth, and he would endure another year and a half, and his official position would be right; Go to the right, my friend calls me to join, and I choose a vice president of a department. My annual salary is as high as the risk. I’m in a dilemma about whether to go or stay.
Yeats looked at her husband’s embarrassment, but did not “point out the country” for him. She expressed her greatest trust and understanding for her husband in a calm and calm manner. She wanted her husband to feel that “choice” itself was a form of life. It was very late that day. Hanson couldn’t sleep and got up to smoke on the balcony. Yeats sent him tea and clothes. Hanson asked, “if you are an official, you may be stable and lack of vigor; if you are in business, you may lose your life. Which do you want?” Yeats said, “what you do is not important. What matters is yourself. I will support you no matter what.” When I got up the next day, I found Yeats’s message on the breakfast table with milk and bread: first, think more about the good side. Second, learn to give up. Hanson finally went into the sea and became a pioneer in the field of environmental protection building materials two years later. But his heart, which was enlightened by Yeats, always remembered that when he was at the crossroads of his life, it was his wife who turned on the traffic lights for him.
Comments: at a time when men are ambiguous, indecisive and in a dilemma, women’s encouragement has the effect of pulling a thousand pounds. In fact, Hanson has already made his own decision subconsciously, but he needs to repeat and doubt to verify whether it is correct or not. The advice of his wife Yeats undoubtedly gives him tremendous and enlarged energy.
Second, when he is “Aphasia”
Sun Juntao has a habit of boasting, and he can even make up the news about having dinner with Clinton the day before yesterday. No matter whether it is true or not, everyone knows that he is just for fun, and no one will take him seriously.
One day, when his mother-in-law came, sun Juntao repeated his old trick. He took a fake necklace to make the old lady happy and said it was real gold. Unexpectedly, he dropped the ticket on the ground. The old lady, with sharp eyes, picked it up and looked at it. She was happy: “this boy has loved to coax me since he was a child. Now he still makes up lies?” Sun Juntao is uncomfortable, but Ruth “praises” him, saying that he doesn’t tell lies, which doesn’t amuse you
Comments: Men’s big talk is invariably vanity and ostentatious, but when he is “Aphasia”, it is when women’s skillful hands catch him. The key is that Ruth never exposes him, so that he can climb to the top along the pole, and then pass a soft ladder if he can’t get down. It will not lose face, but also hit the nail on the head, and then let him obediently implement it.
III. when he “fails to observe”
Jin Jun is lucky to have a good wife. Nini’s generosity, beauty and talent make him look up to her with the development of his married life. Nini is good at everything at home and outside. While Kim Joon is in a good mood, he also finds that Nini always loses no time to show more surprising advantages or strengths.
Kim Joon Hwa has always boasted that he is a computer expert. These days, he is designing a complex personal homepage. When he is halfway there, he is very proud and shows off to Nini. Nini praised him a few words, but improved several animation effects at random, and the level was obviously higher than him. Jin Jun was stunned: “when did you still have this skill?”
Comments: Nini’s beauty is to surprise her husband repeatedly. She doesn’t win by being fierce and subduing. She has a good grasp of the heat. This is: when she is helping her husband, she adds icing on the cake, so that he can understand that I am better than you expected.
IV. when he is “distorted”
Hong had a highly inflated fermentation period, further arrogant, and arrogant. Anyway, some people felt too good about themselves. Because several academic papers have been published in authoritative journals and several professional titles have been promoted, he has become somewhat arrogant and complacent. Liu Xin is a cautious wife, and she can’t help worrying about her husband’s arrogance.
Once, she and her husband were cooking together in the kitchen. They shouted loudly that they didn’t dare to kill fish. Her husband paced over and said, “get out of the way. Is there anything better than me?” Liu Xin pretended to be frightened and said, “this fish is so fierce that it’s hard to get it.”
It was also Hong’s first time to kill a fish. He thought it was a piece of cake, but first he couldn’t catch it. When he really put the knife down, his hands trembled. The fish that had been opened were useless but not dead, jumping up and down. Hong was so embarrassed that his hands and body were covered with dirty blood that he dropped his kitchen knife and fled the scene. After some tossing and turning, Liu Xin said while scraping the scales: “husband, what else can you do?” Hung also pretended to be arrogant: “hum, it’s an ox, and there’s something more than it.” Liu Xin answered meaningfully: “yes, no one should be too arrogant. There are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people.” Hung was stunned and didn’t speak for a long time. The process of killing fish became a living life advice
Comment: there was a drama of “killing a dog to persuade a husband” in ancient times. Liu Xin only told her husband to keep his cool. Men are prone to deformation and distortion at the peak. The so-called complacency will lead to future troubles. Liu Xin’s move to kill fish seems to be thrilling, but it is in fact linked and highly targeted. In the “bloody” lesson, he does not worry about his husband’s “not forgetting”.
v. when he is “lovelorn”
Anjie is the business director of a company, and his passion for order output is no less than his pursuit of Lisa’s concentration and persistence in those years. Lisa said that career was his “second love” and his second emotional sustenance. What’s more, his performance has always been outstanding, and his income and position have been rising. But taking care of the family is a bit lazy.
This is not so much a shortcoming as a decoration of success. However, during this period, Anjie felt “lovelorn” – first, the customer regretted his appointment, then several businesses failed in succession, and he was temporarily stranded in the company’s personnel changes. A strong sense of frustration made Anjie depressed.
Lisa arranged a birthday dinner, two short trips, and went to the sports center with her friends to have a heated tennis and swimming competition… Between silence and indifference, Lisa showed that she was more dependent on her husband in life and more worshipful of his ability. Her husband was quietly captured by the happiness she created. She said in self-examination: “family and body deserve special attention. I am convinced by his wife’s intentions.”
Comments: Anjie’s situation is common among men. Lisa’s wisdom is a timely help. The frustrated husband is the most vulnerable, and the power to move him is particularly moving. At the same time, diverting his eyes from “lovelorn” and creating a sense of relief and achievement beyond pressure is the best way to touch his weak spots.
6. When he is “out of control”
Anan is over 30 years old, and is gradually tired and peaceful. His temper is growing day by day, and he is impatient to see anything. This time, I accompanied my wife Hui to a concert. When I went out, I murmured about a street lamp in the community that didn’t shine. When I hit it, I suspected that the music played by the driver was noisy… I was angry all night, and the evil fire was “angry”. According to the story, Hui’s good mood has been destroyed, but she took the patience to coax the child and accompanied him to “coax”. Her husband said one thing and she added two.
Until entering the house, Anan complained that the lighting switch at the door was installed too high, while Hui simply pretended to be “angry” and said that she would ask someone to smash the wall tomorrow to dismantle and reroute the line. My husband was stunned and asked, “are you so unhappy?” Hui smiled: “whatever you are unhappy about is what I want to overthrow.” The husband understood that the wife was only treating her own way. After the concert, Anan reminded me to control myself. Comments: men sometimes behave like children. Anan is just acting like a spoiled child. Hui plays a family game of “anger” with him with tolerance, creating a brake for her husband’s “out of control”. Like a fast train running across the road, she found a smooth transition reducer, and her husband’s anger gradually died out.
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