When we talk about Sub-health, we often talk about the physical sub-health state, such as what symptoms are and how to recover, but we seldom mention the emotional sub-health. Because our psychology changes too fast, we usually can’t even grasp ourselves, so we have no time to notice it. Today we will analyze how emotional sub-health will behave.
Sub-health refers to people’s low-quality health and experience between health and disease. According to the report of the World Health Organization, 70% of the world’s people are in a “sub-health” state. Generally speaking, “sub-health” can be divided into five aspects: body, psychology, emotion, thought and behavior, and people’s experience in these five aspects is: body is always a little uncomfortable, psychology is always a little restless, emotion is always a little unsatisfactory, thought is always a little incorrect, and behavior is always a little inappropriate.
In the past, we paid more attention to the physical and psychological sub-health problems, and many people did not know much about “emotional sub-health”. In fact, “emotional sub-health” is widespread in today’s society, and has become a very prominent social reality.
Next, let’s learn about the nine main manifestations of “emotional sub-health” — the surplus type of “emotional sub-health”: more emotions should be given: in family life, parents and grandparents give more emotions to children, often showing as doting.
Excessive care and love make children too dependent and lack confidence. In the marriage life, one party loves the other so much that the other party has to take care of everything, and the other party wants to take care of everything. Only allow the other party to accept his love, and do not allow the other party to say “no”. This ardent love is actually a kind of “domineering love”. Because love is too hot and overbearing, the other party is submerged in the “ocean of love” and even burns love to death.
Countermeasures: the surplus type of “emotional sub-health” is actually a kind of “emotional obesity”. To make the emotion develop healthily, we should “lose weight” and make it return to normal and healthy. From the perspective of emotional givers, don’t be sentimental and “spread love to the world” at will; From the perspective of the emotional receiver, don’t accept all emotions, but learn to refuse.
Lack of “emotional sub-health”:
There is less emotion to be given: in family life, the younger generation generally gives less emotion to the older generation. Many of the younger generation only know how to ask for things from their families, and do not know how to think about their feelings. In the married life, some people are passionate when they are in love, but they cool down after marriage. They no longer create love, no longer know how to look at problems from each other’s perspective, and no longer pay attention to each other’s feelings.
Countermeasures: lack of “emotional sub-health” is like “emotional anemia”, “emotional atrophy” and “emotional malnutrition”. To solve the lack of “emotional sub-health”, it is necessary to “transfuse” emotions, increase “nutrition”, and make emotions full. At the same time, we should also exercise our emotions, improve our emotional quality, and make our emotions reach their proper healthy normality.
Advanced “emotional sub-health”:
The emotion that should be given is expressed early: it is natural that a man should marry and a woman should marry. However, only when men and women reach a certain age and have certain conditions, it is normal and reasonable to talk about marriage. Now, some teenagers fall in love prematurely before they are physically and mentally mature, and some even have sex, and even have unwanted pregnancies of minors, which are unhealthy emotional behaviors. Countermeasures: the leading “emotional sub-health” is like an immature “sour jujube”. The best way to make this “sour jujube” really delicious and attractive and become a “sweet jujube” is to wait patiently for a few more days without worrying.
Lagging “emotional sub-health”:
The emotion that should be given is too late
Performance: when their parents are alive, children always neglect greetings, less care and less humanistic emotional care under the pretext of busy work and entertainment. When their parents died, they felt regret and sadness.
Fundamentally speaking, love and marriage are both cultural phenomena. Men and women standing at both ends of love should be lovers who love each other deeply, not businessmen who talk about weight and price. Regrettably, in real life, some people pay too much attention to houses, cars, seats, Laozi, tickets and other things, and think too much, and consider too little about the emotional implication, emotional innovation and emotional consolidation of marriage.
Countermeasures: lagging emotional giving is a kind of “late love”, a kind of “mending after a sheep is lost” emotional giving, and a kind of “afterthought” emotional compensation, which inevitably contains regret, regret, guilt and shame. To get out of the lagging “emotional sub-health”, it is necessary to treat all kinds of emotional relationships correctly, not to be obscured by immediate interests, not to be influenced by numerous personnel, and to maintain an ordinary heart and a lasting feeling.
Dissociative “emotional sub-health”:
Stable emotional instability: for example, in love life, some people talk about one thing today and change another tomorrow, “love is everywhere”. Some people talk too much about love, but they have doubts about true love. They think that it does not exist and there is no need to pursue it seriously. This is “love fatigue”. Countermeasures: the dissociative “emotional sub-health” sways and floats in the face of temptation.
The result is often a chicken flying with eggs and a bamboo basket. To get out of the dissociative “emotional sub-health”, we must constantly strengthen our sense of social responsibility and constantly correct our emotional value orientation.
Stubborn “emotional sub-health”:
The emotion that should be transferred is not transferred: in emotional life, some people rely too much on their other half. Once they encounter natural and man-made disasters or emotional changes, they will be unable to recover and even commit suicide. Thinking that the other party is your only one is the total value of your existence and life.
In family life, many parents often ask their children according to their wishes. This kind of stubborn love not only makes children difficult to accept, but also alienates them even further from their parents. Some will also produce emotional barriers and personality defects, which will lay hidden dangers for their future life.
Countermeasures: to get out of the stubborn “emotional sub-health”, we must change a state of mind, a perspective and a way of thinking.
Three sentences are very enlightening. First sentence: don’t “one leaf blinds the eye”. As long as you take away the “blind” leaves, you will see a wide world and a colorful world in front of you; The second sentence: “take a step back, the sky is high.”. In fact, whether to take a step back or take a step further, the initiative lies with you; The third sentence: “if it’s not yours, don’t force it.” try to “feel at ease” and “remain calm when things change”.
Stupid “emotional sub-health”:
The emotion that should be given is wrong: gratitude is a virtue. However, foolish rewards often hurt each other. A wife had her breasts removed due to illness, but her husband still loved her. In order to repay her husband, she arranged an 18-year-old lady for him in the hotel when he was drunk. Later, because of a report, her husband was arrested for whoring.
Countermeasures: stupid “emotional sub-health” is like expired milk. Drinking it is not only not good, but harmful to health; It’s also like sleeping pills. If you eat too much, you will die. To get out of the stupid “emotional sub-health”, the key is to have a rational consciousness.
Demanding “emotional sub-health”:
There should be more emotions: in the family, some people always ask their lovers to do more for themselves, for example, earn more money and spend less, work more and rest less, contribute more and ask less, but never think about what they should do for the family.
If this goes on for a long time, the contradictions between husband and wife will naturally arise. If they are not alleviated in time, the emotional life will be in crisis. The law of family life is: the more you do, the happier you are; The more you want, the less happy you will be. Countermeasures: the demanding “emotional sub-health” is actually a kind of compulsive emotional “hegemonism”. The demanding party will often lose big things because of small things, and take care of one thing and lose the other, which will backfire. To get out of the demanding “emotional sub-health”, the key is to get out of the self-centered consciousness and get along with others equally.
Fear type “emotional sub-health”:
Emotional expression of total fear of others: in married life, some wives always dislike their husbands for being unpromising and unable to earn money, so husbands have a fear of their wives. However, once the husband is promising and can earn money, the wife will turn to fear her husband for fear that he will provoke flowers and plants outside and do anything deviant. Countermeasures: fear type “emotional sub-health” is an overly sensitive emergency emotional state.
It is like a wounded deer, very sensitive to everything, and the biggest problem is fear of the future. To get out of the fear type “emotional sub-health”, the key is to adjust the mentality and mood, not to be depressed; Be full of hope and don’t be suspicious; We should take a comprehensive view of the problem and not go to extremes; Trust others.
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