Eating at home alone can bring many benefits. In recent years, Japan, Taiwan and other places have been advocating the “eat home campaign”. The data show that the calories of restaurant meals are 60% higher than that of ordinary meals on average. Eating in restaurants often leads to excessive intake of oil, salt and meat, which increases the risk of metabolic diseases such as obesity, diabetes and hypertension. On the contrary, eating at home is conducive to developing a balanced eating habit and avoiding eating too much. In addition, returning home often has the following benefits for different groups of people.
to oneself: vent and improve emotions. “ everyone often has three ways to deal with difficult things: sublimation, catharsis and suppression.” Wang Guorong said that sublimation requires a realm, and not everyone can do it. Depression is harmful to the body and mind. Only venting is relatively easy, and the family is the best place to vent. Home is the most inclusive place. You have the most understanding, can get strong support, and is a healing place to improve your mood.
to children: I am more confident when I quit bad habits research by Tohoku University in Japan has found that the longer children spend with their parents, the stronger their language understanding ability, whether they are young children in early school or young people after entering school. In addition, a number of studies have confirmed that parents often go home, which is conducive to creating a happy family atmosphere. Children who grow up in this environment are more confident, have stronger social skills, have better academic performance, and have healthier psychology. In addition, only when parents come home frequently will children be willing to go home. A US study found that teenagers who eat at home more than five times a week have a lower risk of contracting bad habits such as smoking, alcohol abuse and drug abuse.
for the elderly: company reduces loneliness a survey involving 10000 elderly people in Beijing found that nearly 50% of the elderly believed that lack of children’s company was the biggest problem in providing for the elderly. Dr. Allen of Oregon University of health and technology in the United States said that those who meet with relatives and friends more than three times a week have the lowest risk of depression, which is only 6.5%, while those who meet with relatives and friends only once a month or less will have a depression risk of 11.5%. Frequent meeting with relatives and friends is conducive to the prevention of depression among people aged 50 to 69, and the benefits of people over 70 are greater. Often going home with the elderly can reduce their loneliness and help their physical and mental health.
to spouse: Communication reduces divorce rate. “ many family quarrels and even divorces begin with the spouse coming home late or not.” Wang Guorong said that not returning home often will increase suspicion and dispel trust. And living with your family will enrich your common experience. (next to the Third Edition) (next to the first edition) if you have any problems, timely communication will enhance the feelings of both husband and wife, reduce quarrels and even divorce rate.
for families: significantly improve happiness a long-term study of 40000 families by the office for National Statistics found that having dinner with family members at least three times a week is a key factor to improve family happiness, and its effect is greater than the improvement of economic income.
make home more attractive
“At any time, we need a ‘home movement’ to let everyone know what home is, and what the value and significance of home are.” Wang Guorong said that despite objective reasons such as long distance and busy work, everyone should go home as much as possible. Home needs our heart and wisdom to operate, and we also need to create a richer family life with talent and creativity to make home more attractive.
office workers should arrange work plans in advance many people sacrifice their current quality of life for a “better future”. Zhang Xuexin said that in addition to improving work efficiency, it is also necessary to make arrangements in advance according to the law. If you have to work overtime two days a week, you should tell your family in advance not to wait for yourself to eat, and go home as soon as possible in the remaining days. People who live in the same city but different from each other are advised to go home to visit the elderly at least every half month.
“heart” makes up for distance nowadays, communication tools are very developed. Although family members can’t live together, they must make their families feel that “you are not there”. Wang Guorong, who works in Suzhou, often asked his brother to shoot small videos of his mother and send them to him. He also built a wechat group for his family to liven up the family atmosphere. Similar methods include remembering family birthdays or important anniversaries, and sending special products and postcards to family members when traveling.
talk for a few minutes when you get home Zhang Xuexin said that the first few minutes after entering the house are the time when family members have the strongest desire to communicate. Don’t pass each other off because you are busy. If you don’t pay attention to listening, the other party’s desire to share may pass. If you don’t know what to talk about with your family, a sentence like “how are you today” can open the conversation. It should be reminded that we must take the initiative to communicate with the elderly, and don’t neglect the elderly because we pay attention to children.
make good use of the dinner time Zhang Xuexin believes that dinner is a training link for family emotions, but many people deal with it. During dinner, it’s easier for everyone to communicate. Making good use of it can ease many contradictions and increase intimacy. It’s a good topic to talk about whether the food is delicious or not, and to talk about the interesting things we met today. Make your home a “theater”. Wang Guorong said that family life can be as rich as the theater. Watching a movie, organizing talent shows, and holding a Book Sharing meeting together are all good theme activities. Everyone can participate in them and “pull” the family back from the outside.
do three things less at home first, continue to work. A German survey found that people who still work after returning home are more likely to suffer from insomnia, headache, stomach disease and other discomfort; The second is that they are too strong. Don’t speak to your family in a commanding tone. You may as well be soft and talk about each other’s feelings; The third is to criticize the family at any time and on any occasion, such as asking the child how many scores he got on the exam as soon as he came home, or asking whether the things he had discussed with his family were done. Once he didn’t, he would lose his temper. It is suggested to communicate calmly after dinner.