Xiao Chen likes to work overtime more and more recently. Even if his work has been completed, he will linger until 10 p.m. Colleagues were puzzled and asked her the reason, but Xiao Chen opened his mouth and stopped. How can she tell her colleagues that her co tenant is a boy and that he is launching a strong courtship offensive against her recently? Xiao Chen, who has no feelings for his co tenant, has nowhere to go after work and can only stay in the company under the name of overtime. She eagerly hopes that the lease will pass soon and she can move out to live alone.
“heterosexual sharing” is popular
In fact, “heterosexual rent sharing” is no longer news. It has increasingly become a word with higher and higher recognition in modern life, and it is quite popular in cities. In some urban newspapers, real estate websites and even some university campuses in Beijing, it is not difficult to see advertisements seeking “heterosexual sharing”. Sharing a room with young people is very popular at present, which saves money and is not lonely.
However, the shortcomings brought by this kind of sharing also make many people think deeply. Is it good or bad to “rent with opposite sex”? Is it a simple way for men and women to improve understanding and seek warmth in lonely cities? Or a hotbed of loneliness and ambiguity for single men and women?
different people hold different views on this issue:
viewpoint 1: opposite sex joint tenancy is conducive to the harmony of the relationship between tenants and can seek more warmth
As the saying goes, opposites attract each other. When men and women are together, both sides will try to show their good aspects to each other. Men will become more responsible and women will become more considerate. In this way, both sides can get some psychological satisfaction, and can avoid friction between the same sex for some small things.
viewpoint 2: a man is a wolf dressed in sheepskin , and the so-called heterosexual sharing is an ambiguous trap.
It is undeniable that there will always be some inevitable embarrassments when men and women live together. Even God, I believe there will also be sprouting, ambiguous, and even some Liezi who are not easy to control and make mistakes. Of course, there are also some people with evil intentions under the signboard of sharing.
Why do you want to rent together?
“Heterosexual co tenants” means finding a co tenant first. Why are we looking for a co tenant? In order to reduce expenses and relieve loneliness, we also have a discussion on life matters, and we young workers have a place to talk when we want to talk after work. From these aspects, opposite sex sharing is optional and has its advantages. But when we make a choice, we must also consider some social factors. No matter what lifestyle we choose, we all live in this society and in such a culture as China. Men and women living together will have some social pressure, and will bring a lot of inconvenience to some private matters, and even some sexual harassment will occur.
6 tips for sharing
1. Opposite sex tenants should have confidence to create a new relationship between men and women, be able to deal with problems rationally, and have good self-control. For gossip in society, we should have adequate psychological preparation and coping measures.
2. Tenants should bear the rent together and have a clear understanding of each other’s economic situation. Special attention should be paid to the fact that the sharing ratio of expenses should be agreed in advance before sharing a lease. It is better to implement the AA system for all kinds of expenses, so as to avoid “taking people soft and eating people short”.
3. Live with a tenant who has common interests. If the vigor of boys and the delicacy of girls complement each other better, life together will be better.
4. Respect each other and do not interfere with each other’s privacy. Don’t wear too casual and sexy clothes in the living room or public places. Girls in particular should maintain self-esteem and soberness.
5. Girls should pay special attention to safety issues and make some emergency preparations, such as telling their friends the phone number and bringing them over to have a look. When you are alone in the room, remember to close the door. You must lock the door when you sleep.
6. For other intolerable matters, such as raising pets, a gentleman’s agreement should be made in advance before sharing the house, so as to avoid verbal disputes in the future.
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